The New Site: Beyourownanswer.com

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We’re moving things around a bit.

The site is in a bit of transition this week. If you subscribed, you’re still with us. (Yay!)

Please visit the new site at www.beyourownanswer.com

Thanks for your patience, and DEFINITELY, please let us know if there are any bugs or dead links.

A special update

This post is special for two reasons:

It's a special day!

It’s a special day!

#1: I am hosting a workshop session for my clients tonight.
#2: And, one of my clients decided to blog about my work with him, so you can get an idea about what I do.

Special #1: I’m going to tell you what we’re working on in this group session.

There’s a story about who you are. Then, there’s the truth of who you are. Get the story to align to the truth and your life will transform. In our interactive group session tonight, we’ll introduce the process of alignment. It’s a bit too deep to speak about here, but feel free to reach out to me for further details here.

Special #2: Here’s a window into the work I do one-on-one.

One of my clients, Michae Allen, is a dedicated husband and father of four who is investing in the launch of his business. Michae talks about my process here.

Want to know more? I answer all questions. (I know that sounds like a setup.) Just comment below.

 

6 Things Leaders Can Learn From The World Cup

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1. True fans will follow you everywhere.

I was watching the #ivorycoastvsjapan match and was amazed at how coordinated the fans were. They had a choreographed dance, shakers and costuming. This is an important game for the country. People knew that their “Elephants” needed their energy, so they came. The Ivory Coast did not disappoint.

Are you encouraging your fans to come along on the ride with you? Nothing great happens alone.

2. People love the story of an underdog.
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I admit it. I’m Lazy.

Yeah, I said it.

Now, that's lazy. Source: mrwallpaper.com

Now, that’s lazy.
Source: mrwallpaper.com

I’m lazy.

It feels good to get that off my chest.

I’m a creative launch and development specialist for entrepreneurs who want to make a difference in the world. That means I’m up at 3 AM in the morning with flashes of genius for their next product, and I work late at night on projects that would frighten normal people.

Every year, I throw a huge party for an organization that supports children and families with almost no support just because I want to do something impactful.

I teach over 300 students under the age of 12 the principles of drama and film every week.

But when it comes to my own business development, I’M REALLY LAZY.

I used to think it was fear. Digging deep might reveal something I don’t want to tackle, I thought. But I love a good puzzle. Figuring myself out has been one of the best mysteries I’ve ever discovered.

It’s not what I will discover that alarms me. It’s what I’ll have to do with it.

Once you discover your hidden potential, you have to do something with it. I was telling my adult students the other day that the scripture says, “If you have faith as big as a mustard seed, you can say to the mountain, Move, and it will move.” Your faith isn’t just something to have. It’s something to use.

And like any muscle, to be effective, it must be exercised regularly. It requires strength and discipline.

Eww.

We are not kept back by outer circumstances, but by the lack of discipline required to change those circumstances. -@NerissaStreet (Like this? Click to tweet.)

I know, right? Ick.

I’m lazy. I admit it. The first step to getting help is admitting there’s a problem. My problem is my definition of discipline.

Discipline isn’t what they’ve told you it is. It isn’t the punishment inflicted by way of correction and training. It doesn’t have to be difficult and unpleasant.

Tweet: Discipline = Devotion Intended to Support Consistency and Inner Peace, Leaving the Ideal Nurturing Environment. – @NerissaStreet

It’s devotion to the best parts of me. Not building systems that support me prevents me from fully serving the entrepreneurs and organizations I love.

So, this summer, I’ll be researching and experimenting with support systems: technology, partners and apps that will give me the creative strength to develop more workshops, create more resources, and introduce you to more ways to #beyourownanswer.

I want to produce and curate video, connect with more people on a larger scale and provide classes and consultation to shift their paradigms powerfully.

If you think you can help, comment below, or share this blog with someone.

More importantly, become devoted to yourself too.

The Surprising Reason You’re Sick

Yuck. Sick again? Photo credit: Andriana Mereuta

Yuck. Sick again?
Photo credit: Andriana Mereuta

Recently, I’ve been sick. Being both an entrepreneur and a teacher, illness is no joke.

In my spiritual practice, it’s even more serious. Our bodies’ natural tendency is toward health and growth. You see that in nature. Grass, plants and trees have to be cut to maintain a certain look, and even then, they must be cut on a continual basis. If you’re sick, you’ve wandered away from a consciousness of God.

Your immunity is your body’s system of resilience. Immunity is “exemption from obligation, service, duty or liability; being insusceptible to disease or punishment.” It is your body’s way of maintaining integrity in the face of anything that is contrary to what you are supposed to be.

Now, you can take this one of two ways:

1) A compromised immunity can be a punishment from God: you’re sick because you forgot you were God’s child. If I feel I’m a smart person, then that could be embarrassing. People who believe this don’t show up for Sunday service when they’re sick, and they stay away from our Bible studies and prayer meetings.

or…

2) A compromised immunity is a warning from your heart: you’re sick because you’ve taken on obligations, duties and liabilities that weren’t yours to begin with. Your energy is being spent on the wrong things, and it’s time to make some choices. In that case, you reach out to your circle of friends, spiritual partners and spiritual teachers for support, and you look within for guidance. You practice extreme self-care and enter what I call a “no-guilt zone.”

I chose the latter.

My sickness reminded me so much of my natural state of being that I looked through everything in my life that I felt obligated to, uneasy about, punished by and liable for. Anything that wasn’t true to who I am called to be was up for debate. Anything that didn’t contribute to my bliss didn’t make the cut. Even while sick, I wrote my blogs, and I taught my classes. I mentored and planned events. I went to the beach and spent time with people I love.

We can’t fear sickness. Sickness is a tool for growth. A tree with damaged limbs must be pruned so it can bear fruit. (Like this quote? Click here to share it on Twitter.)

If you’re sick, don’t just recommit to your physical health. Use the time of self-care to look at the mental, emotional and relational obligations that compromise your integrity. Then, choose joy. Even if your physical healing isn’t immediate, your true healing will begin.

What about you? Do you muddle through sickness, or is it a time of self-reflection?

The Steadman Principle (while you #banbossy)

(with apologies to the Winfrey camp)

Men love us! Credit: Banbossy.com Campaign

Men love us!
Credit: Banbossy.com Campaign

Those who remember Janet Jackson’s hard-core days, when she dressed in all black and was part of the Rhythm Nation, may recall her song, “The Pleasure Principle”.

She was on to something.

We serial entrepreneurs and world-changers find ourselves in a quandary. We may still want the hot, masculine man to take care of our most fun needs—but the world needs us too.  So we also need a sensitive man who understands carbon footprints, the entrepreneur’s lifestyle AND our want to mentor that young girl who acts all hard-core but still loves stickers.

Where is that perfect mix of The Rock and Jai Rodriguez from Queer Eye?

He’s out there, sistren. He’s just not going to show up the way we expect.

We leaders are the new species of woman.  So, there’s a new species of man.

The old paradigm had men as our charismatic breadwinners, setting the vision for the household. Now the vision comes from us.

Who is the helpmate to the visionary, socially conscious woman?

A wonderfully sensitive, supportive and grounded man.

He is the Steadman to your Oprah.

Follow me a bit here.

I know you, visionary powerhouse, are looking for another dynamo so that you can be evenly yoked. He’s out there. And he wants to build a life with your awesomeness.

What kind of man is going to be patient with his own needs while you’re out knocking down barriers of injustice?

A spiritual partner. The “even yoke” is not material.

Being spiritually matched doesn’t mean your practical, daily needs aren’t met. In fact, they’re met easier. The right partner will challenge you to remain balanced.

Did you know Meryl Streep is married with children? Most people forget that, and that’s exactly what she wants. A beautifully fulfilling, relatively normal private life—and the right partner made that happen. Sparks may fly with other powerhouses, but who is going to tend your flames?

And really, let’s be frank: would Oprah and Steve Jobs have been compatible in a long-term relationship?

Women who lead are complemented by men who support. When we #banbossy, we can embrace love too. Help the women and girls in your circle do both.

Hidden Success in the Corporate Workplace

“How do you do it?” she asked.

One of my coworkers had approached me.

Amen

Amen.
Photo credit: Andriana Mereuta

“What?” I asked.

“How do you stay so cheerful?”

We both work in a high-stress, high-stakes environment with constant changes in priority—and one urgent issue after another.

Wow, I thought.

“It’s an inside job, “ I said. “If I paid attention to outer stuff, I’d be insane.”

That’s what I said.

What I meant was: I’m a spiritual woman who prays and listens to inspirational things, surrounds herself with like-minded people and trusts God to guide me so I feel connected to something that gives all this stress greater meaning.

But if I said it was God that would have started a conversation that I didn’t want to have right at that moment.

Because leaving things up to an invisible force is counterintuitive in a world that lauds superachievement and serial entrepreneurship.

Prayer and spiritual study is not seen as real work.  Those of us who are spiritual know that is a lie.

You can live exactly as you have been living right now if you do nothing. In fact, that’s what happens with most people. We see what exists, believe that is all there is, and live life within that worldview.

Every inspired, progressive life– every corporate success story– started with the person believing in something that did not exist yet and working to make it possible.

What is that if it isn’t spiritual?

The legendary Steve Jobs envisioned touchscreen technology, and made it a reality. It didn’t exist until he made it so.

What is that if it isn’t spiritual?

If you listen to the media, people who follow “God” are Westboro Baptists, extreme Zionists and suicide bombers. And “spiritual” people use crystals and channeled messages. I feel obligated to separate myself from those categories– but then I know that isn’t the majority.

I think we need better marketing.

A well-run business follows certain principles, but it’s made innovative when the person running it works those principles to make something greater.

We suffer when we hide the parts of us that are the most vital. My spirituality is the reason I live the life I do – and why I can work where I do and be the blessing that I am. My spirituality, like that of many others, is inclusive and inspirational. It opens my heart and encourages me to serve others. I follow certain principles in order to be part of something greater.

I’m coming out. I’m spiritual, and I do business in the corporate marketplace. How about you?